Love is an Energy.... The Frequency That Connects Us
When we think of love, we often equate it with we feel—a rush of emotion, an attachment to another person, a force that comes and goes. But…. What if we shift how we think of love to something much deeper? What if love we consider love as a vibrational frequency—a state of being that underlies connection itself—rather than an emotion?
It’s been show that language shapes our understanding of the world, yet no single word fully captures the essence of love as I’ve come to experience it. I appreciate exploring the meaning and origins of words, and while the dictionary defines love in terms of affection, attachment or devotion, these meanings feel incomplete, even surface level. To me, love, in its truest sense, is something far more elemental—a frequency that binds us to one another, to our planet and to our very fabric of existence.
The science and spirit of love
Science has demonstrated that love shifts our biochemistry—raising oxytocin, deepening connection and fostering trust. When we live in love, we move toward coherence; our hearts synchronize, our nervous systems settle and we find ourselves open to creativity, intuition and deeper relationships.
Yet, in today’s world, lower vibration emotions—fear, competition, blame—are driving much of our cultural narrative. We are conditioned to strive, to protect, to accumulate. And these energies can lock us in a perpetual beta wave—a state of vigilance, stress and reaction. Of survival. In this state, our thinking narrows, our trust erodes and we disconnect from ourselves and one another.
Love has the power to shift us into a different frequency. Into alpha state—where we feel safe, present and open—and in which love flows freely. This is where collaboration, innovation and our wisdom emerge. This is where we move from doing to being.
Love as a leadership imperative
It’s not easy to speak of love in leadership. Too often, the word is met with skepticism—dismissed as sentimental, romantic or completely out of place in business. In this context, however, love extends well beyond an emotion to coherence, trust and presence.
As a brand consultant, I often see love’s absence in company environments characterized by stress and even underlying fear—where competition overrides collaboration, where productivity is valued above well-being, and where vulnerability is mistaken for weakness. And today, strict calls back to the office are often more about control than connection (and I should note, I’m not adverse to returning to offices; I personally prefer real life to virtual work). The real issue, however, isn’t where people work—it’s how they work, and whether they feel comfortable enough to bring their whole selves to the table.
Digital work has blurred boundaries, intertwining our professional and personal lives in ways we can no longer ignore. As self-imposed boundaries between our roles, responsibilities and environments have dissolved so, too, has the illusion that we can effectively compartmentalize the different aspects of who we are without risking burnout or micro-trauma. This is why it’s increasingly important for many people to feel a sense of wholeness at work—to align the many elements of who they are with what they do. When fear dominates, people retreat into survival mode and performance becomes highly transactional rather than relational and thereby sustainable.
Yet the most resonant leaders—the ones who inspire transformation within and without—operate from a different space. They lead with love as an energetic presence—one that fosters security, belonging and creative flow. They cultivate spaces where people feel seen, where ideas flourish, where trust is foundational.
Because love, in this sense, is more than a virtue. It is the connective tissue of humanness.
Restoring balance: love as a pathway to wholeness
To move toward a world that is more just, joyful, and harmonious, we must first return to love—not as a fleeting sentiment celebrated on Valentine’s Day, but as a higher order way of being.
During the pandemic, it seemed as if COVID was a catalyst for rebalancing—forcing us to confront injustice, inequity, and unsustainable ways of living—not a random act of Mother Nature. Love, in its elevated form, holds the power to accelerate the transformation of systems and structures—bringing us into greater harmony with ourselves, with one another and with the Earth.
To put love into practice, though, we must first be love.
This means shifting from a doing-driven existence to a being-driven presence—where we meet one another with curiosity instead of judgment, where we move from scarcity into trust, where we honor our own individuality while strengthening our collective belonging. All in service of becoming the fullest expressions of ourselves—allowing the whole to flourish as each part thrives.
In Hebrew, the word Ahava (love) contains Hav, meaning "to give." And before Hav sits Aleph—a symbol of unity and oneness. In this, there is a message: To be part of the whole, we must give of ourselves—and also be open to receiving.
Love is not an abstraction. It is not distant, nor external. It is within and between us. It is the frequency that moves through our humanness—and indeed, everything—the pulse of life itself.
An invitation to embody love
So, as we reflect on love today—as a force, not as a feeling—how might we shift our own energy?
How might we lead, create and connect from a space of love, rather than fear?
How might we bring the frequency of love into our work, our relationships our choices?
Because when we embody love—as something we are—we move differently in the world. We interact differently with ourselves, with each other and with the planet.
We cultivate trust.
We foster belonging.
We create the conditions for something greater to emerge.
And in this liminal space, carried by love, we begin to dream anew.